Like I said in the description, this Blog is unlikely to be a work which is noted for its dazzling brilliance of language and unrivalled cogency, but that doesn't mean that
- I can't try
- It won't all be true and representative of my train of thought
No person handles rejection perfectly. Nobody likes to be told that they're not wanted, but I don't think it's the rejection which is exemplary of your value as a person, but rather the manner in which you deal with the rejection.
Ultimately there is nothing that can be done about a rejection or failure, so why dwell on it? Surely it should be easier to just say...
"Well I ain't letting myself get into that situation again"
...and move on.
Sure it would, but that would be so emotionless and cold as to render it inhuman. The disappointment associated with rejection is key to why we (on the whole) do the best to avoid it, and why we strive to better ourselves. In this way rejection isn't necessarily a bad thing, it can keep us spurred on, rather than allowing us to stagnate. Sometimes we need to dressing down which a rejection provides, and often with hindsight we will see just how important the disappointment was in bringing about our later happiness. Without feeling bad about rejection we couldn't feel good about acceptance, so of course we have to let it get to us, but we can't let it overwhelm us. Just enough to feeling to know we're not numb, but not too much to cause the numbness in the first place.
The simple fact of the matter is that even the best of us will face rejection at some point, but what will really mark you out as being amongst the best of us is whether you have the self-belief and humility to accept it, pick yourself up and move on.
Don't let one rejection brand your self-image with the word FAILURE. One rejection might just be an attempt to steer you in the right direction rather than tell you to give up altogether.
Ultimately there is nothing that can be done about a rejection or failure, so why dwell on it? Surely it should be easier to just say...
"Well I ain't letting myself get into that situation again"
...and move on.
Sure it would, but that would be so emotionless and cold as to render it inhuman. The disappointment associated with rejection is key to why we (on the whole) do the best to avoid it, and why we strive to better ourselves. In this way rejection isn't necessarily a bad thing, it can keep us spurred on, rather than allowing us to stagnate. Sometimes we need to dressing down which a rejection provides, and often with hindsight we will see just how important the disappointment was in bringing about our later happiness. Without feeling bad about rejection we couldn't feel good about acceptance, so of course we have to let it get to us, but we can't let it overwhelm us. Just enough to feeling to know we're not numb, but not too much to cause the numbness in the first place.
The simple fact of the matter is that even the best of us will face rejection at some point, but what will really mark you out as being amongst the best of us is whether you have the self-belief and humility to accept it, pick yourself up and move on.
Don't let one rejection brand your self-image with the word FAILURE. One rejection might just be an attempt to steer you in the right direction rather than tell you to give up altogether.
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Alex, I saw you on my blog. Can't locate your email. Why don't you contact me:)
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